There hit been three nowadays in life when grouping hit told me that I am too controlling. This is not something that is pleasant to hear. Each time I hit heard this I hit become quite defensive and angry, but upon person reflection I realize that the observations were right. This is not the greatest feeling, yet I was happy that I hit grouping that care enough most me to saucer out my mistakes to me. The only artefact we are able to grow and change is if we realize what we are doing wrong.

My latest episode of existence too controlling involved my eighteen assemblage old son. He was in the market for motorcycles for sale. He had been saving his money from a part time employ for digit years. He had talked most owning a bike since he was ten years old. I hit always been concerned most this because I know that there are some grouping that get seriously hurt and killed in accidents every year. A few weeks prior to his birthday he was looking at production ads for motorcycles for sale. I went into my full litany most why this was not a good idea. We ended up having an argument and both of us said things that we regretted. I told him that he would not own a bike while still living at home so he threatened to move out and things meet escalated. I was feeling awful and was losing sleep. I did not want to back down from my decision. One of my co-workers who is also a very good friend told me that I was trying to protect and curb my son and in the process was losing him. She pointed out that he was very responsible. He had held the same employ for digit years and maintained good grades in school. He was answerable in driving the family car and he was not a risk taker. She pointed out that when he was eighteen he would be an grown and I needed to give up trying to curb his life.

She was right. It was difficult to center and admit, but what she was saying was true. I called my husband and asked him if he knew which of the motorcycles for sale our son was interested in. I suggested we help him buy it as a gesture that I would support his decision to hit a bike and trusted that he would be safe with it. We told our son that night that we would help him buy the bike as his birthday gift. I apologized to him. This is one thing that I hit found has helped in my relationship with our children, the ability to adjudge existence wrong and apologizing when I am.